March 25th, 2012
January 23rd, 2012
"We all know that people can be afraid of failure, but did you know that many people are afraid of success?
No one likes to fail. But some folks are so focused on the possibility of failure that they become over-anxious and unable to perform. Their fear of failure actually creates failure.
There are people who manage to sabotage their own efforts, often unconsciously, not because they are afraid of failure, but because they are afraid of success.
You see, we all carry around a mental picture of ourselves, and if success is not a part of that picture, we are in trouble. While a part of us wants success and all that goes with it, another part is silently saying, "That is not like me. I am not comfortable with this kind of responsibility," or something along those lines.
We may be perfectly capable of success in other ways, and we may have all the necessary skills and abilities. But it is like growing a pumpkin inside a jug. You can slip a flowering pumpkin vine inside a jug, and the pumpkin will grow to be jug-shaped. Later, you break the glass and you have a jug-shaped pumpkin
You see, your picture of yourself, your self-concept, is like the glass jug. It tells you where your limits are. Techniques like affirmation and visualization are used to help when you want to get a bigger jug or, in other words, when you want to comfortably stretch your idea of who you are and what you are capable of.
With practice, you can get to the place where neither failure nor success will upset you."
My desk is empty, and the boxes filled..... time to say adieux.
January 11th, 2012
January 2nd, 2012
My new years resolutions are:
- to love myself and see myself through the same lens that my family sees me through.
- to be more present in each moment, savoring them like each is my last.
- to waste less time doing meaningless activities like facebook and read more.
- to try to see the good in everyone, even the fucktards.
- to have patience with myself and everyone else.
- to learn 10 new things
- to spend time with girl friends.
- to give up guilt. It's a wasted emotion.
- to give up fear. Again... it's a wasted emotion that just makes you feel crappy.
- to get more pedicures. This isn't really for inner work. I just like them.
September 17th, 2011
My daughter the genius-
Elizabeth took her state testing last spring and scored in the 4 range (highest range) in EVERY AREA putting her in the top 2% of washington students. She scored a PERFECT SCORE IN WRITING. She also scored a perfect score in the subranges of: comprehension literary text, applied science and number, operations, expressions and variable math. Her lowest scores were in data and statistics. Go figure. I hated statistics too. MY KID IS AWESOME.
September 12th, 2011
"Some people think it is smart and sophisticated to be cynical. We see a lot of this in the world today. But I
don't buy into it, and I will tell you why.
Do you know anyone with a cynical attitude? I'll bet you do. Cynics believe that people are motivated by
selfishness and they are scornful and contemptuous of anything that looks like virtue or integrity. Cynics
pride themselves in having a "realistic approach" and mock those with a more optimistic view. But have
you ever noticed that cynics more than likely are unhappy people? They are not only unhappy, but they
seem dead to the spiritual values that give life meaning.
I've heard cynics described as failed idealists who commit a kind of intellectual suicide. Now that may
seem extreme, but think about it. Cynics build no bridges, make no discoveries, and expect people to
behave badly. They see no room for improvement, so they abandon hope and in the process, give up
their power to act and bring about change.
Now, our minds are nourished by a continual supply of new ideas, which we then put to work with a
purpose in mind. But if there are no worthwhile new ideas, as the cynic believes, the mind becomes
stagnant. And, a stagnant mind is a danger to its owner and worse than useless to the community at
So, refuse to be influenced by the nay-sayers and cynics in your midst. Hold to your hope and humor,
your ideals and dreams, your compassion and imagination, for it is these things that give life meaning
and bring us all a better world. "
August 14th, 2011
Summer 2011, I say adieu.